I spent a few hours that Saturday and Sunday sitting at our branded booth doing connection cards with people passing by. Over the course of a few hours, I began to see consistent themes. What I learned changed how I handle my feelings.
After attending Burning Man for 11 years, I was disturbed that only 1% of the city’s population was Black. How was it that we fell so short when it comes to radical inclusion? As a filmmaker prior to founding Kindra, I set out to explore why there are so few African Americans at Burning Man and created a 10 minute documentary that was featured in The New York Times.
Seven years later, I have a new realization. Premise: life is hard enough. Conclusion: my relationships get to be easy.
At that time, I thought relationships were difficult and I needed to work on them. I look back and realize, I was difficult and I needed to work on me. I was susceptible to intense episodes of lust and need. I was attached to “looking polyamorous.” I was often seeking love from those who did not want to give it to me.