Whenever we withhold an emotion, whether anger, love, sadness, we end up reducing our connection with the person we are trying to build a relationship with. If you have a strong taboo in a relationship about expressing anger, and then you get angry —which you will as it is a fact of life — not sharing it is going to reduce your expression of love, intimacy and connection. Not expressing your anger is going to keep all the good emotions buried underneath.
There is a notion within my previous career in filmmaking that constraints and restrictions can actually be invaluable, as they promote creativity. Without them, you can sometimes find yourself paralyzed by unlimited choice or trodding along on a well-worn hackneyed path producing tired, unoriginal work.
With my startup Kindra Connect, I learned that restrictions can also spark ideas and create opportunities in business and technology.
After attending Burning Man for 11 years, I was disturbed that only 1% of the city’s population was Black. How was it that we fell so short when it comes to radical inclusion? As a filmmaker prior to founding Kindra, I set out to explore why there are so few African Americans at Burning Man and created a 10 minute documentary that was featured in The New York Times.