I got hooked on festivals after attending my first Burning Man in 1999. Since then I’ve attended 12 Burning Mans, plus more than 10 regional Burns (BEquniox and YOUtopia), and festivals including Lightning in a Bottle, Lucidity, The Gathering, BhaktiFest, Leyenda, Genius Loci, and more.
After attending Burning Man for 11 years, I was disturbed that only 1% of the city’s population was Black. How was it that we fell so short when it comes to radical inclusion? As a filmmaker prior to founding Kindra, I set out to explore why there are so few African Americans at Burning Man and created a 10 minute documentary that was featured in The New York Times.
Seven years later, I have a new realization. Premise: life is hard enough. Conclusion: my relationships get to be easy.
At that time, I thought relationships were difficult and I needed to work on them. I look back and realize, I was difficult and I needed to work on me. I was susceptible to intense episodes of lust and need. I was attached to “looking polyamorous.” I was often seeking love from those who did not want to give it to me.